When I was dating my polyamorous ex, I discovered that sex parties were a regular occurrence in the nonmonogamy community. Not only that, but they were serious business. The invitations were exclusive; every single person who entered the host home had to be fully vetted, tested for STIs, and trusted to not misbehave or violate consent in any way. There were rules about safety, drinking, which rooms were designated for certain activities, and even pool use.
Now I'll admit, even though I was in a nonmonogamous relationship at the time (and as sex-positive as I am), I was way too intimidated to attend any of the various sex parties my partner and I were invited to. There was definitely an element of anxiety about having tons of people see me naked and engaging in sex when I knew I would see them in more vanilla settings later on.
That said, I now regret not going — for those who are interested, sex parties can offer a chance to let go of shame and fear around sex and just have fun enjoying pleasure with new people. Plus, sex parties appear to be more common than ever, with more people openly discussing them.
But this all may beg the question: how does one get invited to a sex party?
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